"I mentioned that I don’t feel any particular social pressure to take on the trappings of “grown-uppiness.” I’ll draw a line between being a “grown-up”—which comes with all the expected obligations like marriage, children, home-ownership, etc—and being an adult—living well within a dignified role in society, educating yourself so you can contribute, honoring responsibilities, having empathy, being a citizen, defining and living the life you want, and the other good stuff that makes the world get along a little better than it would otherwise. I am an adult, but I am not a grown-up. There are many, many more like me."
— Frank Chimero on grown ups
"Closely related is the sheer exhaustion of being constantly tapped into in the network. Every tweet I read or write elicits some small (or not so small) emotional reaction: anger, mirth, puzzlement, guilt, anxiety, frustration. I’ve tried to prune my following list so that when I do find myself engaging in a genuine way, it’s with a person I genuinely want to engage with. But there’s a limit to how much pruning can be done, when unfollowing a real-life friend is the online equivalent of punting his puppy across the room. So all day long, I’m in and out of the stream, always reacting to whatever’s coming next. Setting aside the question of how distracting this is when I’m trying to get work done, the fact is that I have a limited capacity for emotional engagement, and the code-switching that’s required when the character of my response is supposed to change every 140 characters only increases this overhead. A life spent on Twitter is a death by a thousand emotional microtransactions. I want to be pouring these energies into my family and my friends and my work."
— Boone Gorges (via ayjay)
I read the following today on a blog: “You don’t get to decide the truth. Other people have their own experiences, just as valid.”
This is the predominant mindset in our culture today. And I understand why. How can one person say their truth, their experience, is any more meaningful than any other persons? Isn’t to say that simply immoral?
The problem with that line of thinking is revealed in the quote. The first sentence pronounces the view that you don’t get to decide the truth. Translation: there is no truth (if no one can decide it, it must not exist).
The second statement reveals the breakdown: “Other people have their own experiences, just as valid.” What’s being said here is that everyone’s truth claims and their experiences are valid. They are all just option on the buffet menu of truth. But the issue is that to say there is no truth or that all truths are valid is to make a truth claim. It is saying that I have the truth (even if that is seen as a non-truth), and if you disagree with me then you’re wrong, or you’re outside the truth.
You really don’t get to decide the truth, but that isn’t because everyone has it. It’s because it comes from outside of any of us.
"We hear “do what you love” so often from those few people who it did work for, for whom the stars aligned, and from them it sounds like good advice. They’re successful, aren’t they? If we follow their advice, we’ll be successful, too! […] We rarely hear the advice of the person who did what they loved and stayed poor or was horribly injured for it. Professional gamblers, stuntmen, washed up cartoonists like myself: we don’t give speeches at corporate events. We aren’t paid to go to the World Domination Summit and make people feel bad. We don’t land book deals or speak on Good Morning America."
— Rachel Nabors, “DON’T do what you love” (via austinkleon)
"FOMO is our generation’s cross to bear."
— Lizzie Crocker at the Daily Beast
"There can be, and should be, a blissful, serene enjoyment in knowing, and celebrating, that there are folks out there having the time of their life at something that you might have loved to, but are simply skipping."
— Anil Dash on JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)
"For those who do feel overwhelmed by other people’s summer fun, figuring out one’s own priorities may help. To combat FOMO in general, Mr. Przybylski recommends “knowing not just what your plans are for Saturday night, but what are your reasons for wanting to do that thing on Saturday night” — developing a sense of “why the heck you’re going out in the first place.” If you understand what you want out of your summer (even if it’s staying inside with the blinds closed and the air-conditioning cranked up), you may be less bothered by what other people are doing with theirs."
— This Anna North NY Times article
"Looking at other people’s vacation pictures on Facebook can make the feeling worse. “Mostly, people like to put their best foot forward on social media,” Dr. Rosenthal said, “so I think it enhances envy, and it enhances a tendency to compare and find yourself wanting.” In summer, it may seem like “everybody’s out there looking their best and in wonderful company and in great fabulous places” — and if you’re just at your apartment, you may feel like you don’t measure up. “Social media,” Dr. Rosenthal said, “is going to enhance senses of inadequacy.”"
— This Anna North NY Times article